Posted by Ali Cloak, Partner
Tips for coping at Christmas following a bereavement
Christmas can be an especially hard time when you’ve experienced bereavement. Ali Cloak, specialist in inquests and fatal claims, shares some tips for managing through the holiday period.
Whether you’ve lost someone fairly recently or not, Christmas can be a very emotional and overwhelming period. With this in mind, there are a number of things you may wish to consider to navigate the Christmas period as smoothly as possible:
Planning what you will do over Christmas is a useful way of managing anxiety about the day. Some people choose not to celebrate after bereavement and might find another way to remember their loved one. This could be something as simple as looking at photographs and talking about the person with family and friends.
You could choose to uphold old traditions or create new ones. There is no right or wrong in terms of what you decide to do but making a plan can help ensure that you don’t feel lost and overwhelmed on Christmas Day itself.
Share with someone
Communication is also really important when you’re dealing with grief. Letting the people close to you know that you are struggling and accepting the support that they have to offer will help relieve the burden. Remember that people might not be aware you’re having a hard time and often communicating this will trigger the help that you need.
If you don’t feel you can turn to family and friends, you might find that a helpline can offer a friendly understanding ear. We have a list of resources and charities who are on hand to support you, available on our website here: https://www.roydswithyking.com/solicitors-for-life/inquests/inquest-bereavement-links-resources/
Take the pressure off
Don’t put pressure on yourself to join in with festivities if you’re not feeling up to it. It might be enough just to make sure you are getting enough sleep and eating properly. These things are easy to forget when struggling with bereavement.
Do what feels right
It is natural to feel grief and upset when you have lost someone close to you. Be kind to yourself and try to remember that it is okay to feel sad or upset. Allow yourself to do what feels right to you.
Equally, there’s no reason to feel that you are betraying the memory of a loved one by trying to enjoy the festive period if you feel up to it. Christmas can provide a perfect opportunity to remember them in a positive way with family and friends.
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