Possessions among the biggest causes of arguments in divorce

Indeed possessions were one of the biggest causes of arguments during divorce, said 50 per cent of those surveyed, ahead of children at 45 per cent. Only money causes more disputes.

The items hidden most frequently were photographs, keepsakes and heirlooms. An additional 11 per cent told researchers that, in retrospect, they wish they had hidden some items.

By contrast, people on average threw away around £394 worth of possessions in anger during a divorce or separation, with 16 per cent of people disposing of items worth more than £500. 40 per cent regretted doing so once they had calmed down.

The study, conducted on behalf of self-storage company Big Yellow, showed living arrangements prompted rows for 41 per cent of respondents.

“The results of this research reveal how relatively unimportant material possessions take on a more emotive role during the turmoil of a break-up, adding conflict at a very difficult time,” says marital therapist Andrew G Marshall.

The study revealed one of the biggest bones of contention to be a couple’s car, which both men and women had their eye on from the start of the divorce process.

However, on the whole, it’s men who got their hands on the prized possession, with women settling for the bed instead.

The five items that cause the most arguments during a divorce are the car (26%), photographs (24%), keepsakes (22%), heirlooms (21%), and the TV (20%).

Another piece of research has also confirmed the importance of possessions in divorce cases. A poll of 2,000 married men and women who were separating found that material goods are the biggest source of arguments between couples, with money and children coming after.

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